stop being weird about how old you are. i'm 30. that's not shameful, thats cool as hell. i survived 30 years in this hellscape and i'm still, like, a kid.
there's no timeline that you have to accomplish anything by in order to be properly successful. those 30 under 30 lists of successful kids are kids that either hit the damn lottery of lucky breaks or had wealthy parents. that's not a failure on your part.
like, be proud of your age. every level up is an achievement.
@popstar The quarter-life crisis is real and it fucking SUCKS that we've been so horribly conditioned by society to think that we have to have everything figured out by 26
I'm just trying to not cross the line into creepy old weirdo that gets completely ostracized from everyone in society
@Demonsthenes13 sure, that's a valid concern with everyone so hyper focused on youth. i don't think you're creepy at all.
Well I appreciate your validation on that
@popstar i'm 31 and i think people after 20 should be executed. old people suck
@tho i'm sorry you feel that way. i'll pray for you.
@popstar the shit there is left to learn still is incredible. people have had their horizons shortened, but i look very carefully at younger folks to see where they're at on a larger scale now
@popstar Thanks, I think I needed to hear this today.
@popstar this is a really good take Star
@popstar fair enough, but I do think worrying about the passage of time is a pretty inescapable part of the human condition
@Aleums well yes, but this is mostly about people that have been taught to believe their window of opportunity shuts at 28 forever
suicide statistics reference
@popstar Turning 35 this month, and tbh, we consider every year wwe still have a blessing because with the trans suicide rate and stuff being what it is (fuck you, transmisic people, for making this the more attractive option for us), we've already beaten the spread, so to speak.
Assuming nothing unexpected happens, our life is only about half over. We, along with our girlfriends, still have plenty of time to make new memories and enjoy life together.
@popstar You are always welcome on my lawn.
This reminds me of a podcast ep I listened to recently, about how there are so many academic studies dedicated to early successes and prodigies, but not as much toward late bloomers
As a sidenote: fuck capitalism and structures that make it difficult for anyone other than an abled neurotypical human to simply live
age and mortality and achievement
heck, i'm 43, and i'm way less of an asshole now than i was at 23. and i have more of my shit together but not all of it. and i still don't have a singular What I'm Doing With My Life thing but i'm past the pressure of achieving greatness while young which is a relief.
there's this frightened rabbit song called "heads roll off" and it has this line -
*And while I'm alive, I'll make tiny changes to earth*
and that's the truth i'm living, and i'm trying to make the changes good ones for as long as i get to stick around.
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