Important thing for all who can see this.

If someone confronts you on your racism or sexism... that means that they like you enough and trust you enough to hear and listen.

If they didn't think you were redeemable, if they didn't think you were worth it, they would roll their eyes and just avoid you. Block on sight, shut down in conversation.

If we confront you about it, no matter how bruskly it may seem. It means that we legitimately think you are better.

You know what I'm talking about.

You talk to your racist grandma, and you just awkwardly smile and nod, because you know it's WORTHLESS to talk to her about why she can't call POC the "coloreds" anymore.

But you tell your friend on here, "Hey, comrade, that was in bad taste"

Why? Because you know your friend will listen.

That's what we are trying to do with you.

it's a sign of respect, not of hatred. Please stop acting like we hate you.

@magicalmilly for me it helps to wait some time for the pain of being called out to leave. Then I can realise why what I did or said was hurtful and become a better person. In the long term it even feels liberating, so calling people out on discriminatiory behaviour is good for everyone.

@magicalmilly Thank you! I have learned a lot from this sort of advice. The best cures for prejudice, for me, have been meeting people from marginalized groups and learning to empathize with them! That, and world travel!

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