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ok i will get real for a sec and say while previously i had been trying to be diligent about CW'ing for covid-19, i think i won't be doing that anymore as it is affecting my daily life so it gets kind of tiring to do that. that has been our real second with chiya.

I should be getting credits for how much I think about gender

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kinda weird how someone can have the same name as someone else

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some pretty clever people out there... that must suck

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going to kasually start replacing the C in words to being my Kombat-ification

im like hardly checking the tl nowadays so tbh if u make a post that u'd think i'd like feel free to just send it to me

i have no idea when anything else is due than the thing i just submitted tho

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togashi like tries to do stuff w/ gender but i think his problem is he doesn't know what a woman is

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i didnt choose to be transgender... i did choose to be an epic gamer....

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i am doing weird and fucked up things to this word doc. sorry prof

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need to do my homework...don't want to do my homework...

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codependency 

I found this on Instagram @haileypaigemagee and really related to it:

When I was told that my people-pleasing was a selfish tendency, I momentarily lost my shit. (Pardon my French.)⠀

I was like ⁠— “WAIT a second. I spend all of this time, energy, and money meeting others’ needs. I’m constantly attuned to them. I listen to all of their problems. I show up whenever, where ever, for whatever reason. I keep the peace. I silence my voice. Selfish?! I’m the most selfless person you’ll ever meet!”⠀

But when you boil it down ⁠— when you ask yourself WHY you’re really doing these things ⁠— usually, beneath it all, is fear.⠀

Fear that, if you don’t, they’ll leave you.⠀
Fear that, if you don’t, they’ll see that you’re really just not worthy of love.⠀
Fear that, beneath all the pleasing, you’re a bad or unlovable person.⠀
Fear that you’d be worth nothing to them if you didn’t please.⠀

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Our pleasing soothes this fear. We do our best to make ourselves invaluable. It’s a subtle form of manipulation, really. We give things before we’re asked to give them. We anticipate others’ needs so effortlessly, sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it ⁠— it comes to us as naturally as breathing. ⠀

I eventually realized that my people-pleasing WAS a selfish tendency. It was all about how I wanted others to perceive me ⁠— not really about giving love or support.⠀

Along the way, I’ve realized that healthy partners won’t WANT someone who pleases and pleases. They’ll want an equal, a companion, an individuated adult with a separate life who can meet them, partner to partner, on the journey of life.⠀

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sometimes it's two. i admit that. perhaps i lied for the sake of brevity.

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